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6 Ways to Navigate the Holidays with Grace

Updated: Nov 22, 2023

As the holiday season approaches—a time of joy and celebration—I'd like to share a personal insight, particularly if you're feeling the mounting pressure of impending festivities. The holidays are fast approaching, yet ongoing projects don't seem to take a break.

Amidst responsibilities, one unique challenge I'm facing is plastering the Kominka house. Living in a rural countryside where no plasterer resides, this becomes a personal project, demanding more than 7 hours for me—a complete amateur—to complete just a few walls. Simultaneously, I'm juggling the regular demands of running SEI MEE TEA, making presentations on my Kominka Life Coaching, and volunteering for a local community's holiday fundraising event. In the midst of these responsibilities, my home has been inadvertently neglected and transformed into a total mess.

Recognizing that I can't do everything, a growing realization surfaces as the holidays draw near: "It’ll be such a special time of the year, and I don’t want to disappoint my children," especially as they return home for the holidays.

However, the stress of expectations is a narrative I create in my own mind. I firmly believe that my thoughts are within my control.

The holidays often bring a mix of emotions and expectations, potentially leading to stress and burnout. Are you starting to feel that tension and internal emotional drama? Let's, my friend, embrace a mindset shift and approach this season with intention.

1. Mindful Reflection

Take a moment to reflect on your expectations and beliefs about the holidays. Remember that your thoughts shape your experience, and by approaching the season with an open mind and curiosity, you can redefine what it means to you.

2. Set Boundaries

Recognize that it's okay to set boundaries and say no. Focus on activities and events that bring you genuine joy and align with your values. This holiday season, pay attention to your thoughts over societal expectations and your old beliefs.

3. Embrace Change

If the holidays look different this year due to personal circumstances or life changes, tell yourself that it is okay. Redirect your energy towards building meaningful moments rather than clinging to the past.

4. Define Your Desired Self

During the bustling holiday season, it's natural to feel overwhelmed. Envision yourself skillfully processing frantic energy, allowing yourself to fully savor the moment, even in a room not decorated as you envisioned. Choose to gracefully acknowledge imperfections and focus on the joy and connection that the holiday season brings.

5. Recharge Your Spirit

Whether it's a quiet moment with a cup of tea, a brisk walk in nature, or a few minutes of meditation, prioritize activities that recharge your spirit. Distinguish this from “buffering” or “procrastinating”—remind yourself that you are in charge.

6. Connect with Others

Reach out to friends, family members, or a life coach who supports you. Share your thoughts and feelings and be open to the support. Connection can be a powerful antidote to burnout. A session with your life coach can rekindle joy and empowerment.

By paying attention to your thoughts, you can navigate this season with grace and show up as your best self. As Shakespeare wisely said, "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."

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